Misconceptions about our sexuality can seriously harm our intimate lives, especially when we measure ourselves against unrealistic standards set by others. Sexologist and psychologist Svetlana is here to dispel three of the most popular myths surrounding female sexuality, helping us achieve a healthier understanding of our bodies and desires.
Many issues in the intimate sphere stem from simple ignorance. While we diligently go to the gym to maintain a toned body, few of us think to train our vaginal muscles. We scrutinize every inch of our face in the mirror for imperfections, yet rarely take the time to explore our own vulva. We earn higher education degrees, often more than one, but our knowledge of sex frequently comes from sources like porn, which is about as accurate in depicting real sexual experiences as a fast-food hamburger is in representing fine dining.
Even in the 21st century, female sexuality is shrouded in a vast array of myths. The only way to counter these misconceptions is with accurate knowledge about how our bodies and minds truly function.
Squirting, also known as female ejaculation or the G-spot orgasm, is often portrayed as the ultimate form of female pleasure, seemingly accessible only to a select few. In reality, the ability to squirt depends more on anatomical factors than exceptional skill or experience. Estimates suggest that 10-54% of women experience squirting at least once in their lives.
Squirting involves the expulsion of a clear, colorless fluid from the urethra during orgasm - not to be confused with thick vaginal lubrication. The amount of fluid can vary, with up to 15 ml (about three teaspoons) being expelled. This fluid often contains PSA (prostate-specific antigen), produced by the Skene's glands located around the urethra. For a squirting orgasm to occur, high arousal is necessary, along with stimulation of the front wall of the vagina, specifically the Grafenberg spot, commonly known as the G-spot. Factors like the positioning of the vagina and the sensitivity of the vaginal front wall also play roles.
While the sensitivity of vaginal muscles can be enhanced through specific exercises, making squirting somewhat "trainable," there is no evidence to suggest that a squirting orgasm is inherently "better" than any other type. Each orgasm is unique, whether or not it involves fluid release.
By understanding the real factors behind these phenomena, we can approach our sexual experiences with a more informed and open mindset, leading to more satisfying and authentic intimate encounters.
